Kink Discovery Questionnaire
Sex-therapist style: non-judgmental, consent-focused, and private. Rate each item 1–5 (1 = not interested, 5 = very interested). Your answers stay in your browser only.
This tool is for self-exploration, not a diagnosis. Use it to start gentle, consensual conversations about pleasure, boundaries, and curiosity.
1. Power Dynamics
Do you enjoy being dominant?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy being submissive?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like giving commands?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like receiving commands?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy asking permission?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy having control taken away?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy taking full control?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like being told what to do?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy telling a partner what they may or may not do?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy power struggles?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy light discipline?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy praise like "good girl/boy"?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy playful degradation?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy being overwhelmed or pinned?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like controlling the pace?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy being "owned" in fantasy?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy owning someone consensually?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy training/being trained?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy testing boundaries safely?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy structured roles or titles?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
2. Sensation Play
Do you enjoy light tickling or teasing touch during intimate moments?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy firm massage or deep pressure touch as part of arousal?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about using blindfolds to heighten your sense of touch?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in temperature play with ice or cool objects on your skin?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in warm sensations like warm oil or safe, low-temperature wax play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy scratching, light nails, or claw-like sensations within your limits?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about soft items like feathers, silk, or fur to create gentle sensations?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about more intense textures like pinwheels or rough fabrics (with safety and consent)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy having your hair gently pulled as part of erotic play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like playful biting or nibbling when everyone is comfortable with it?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in focusing sensation on specific areas like neck, thighs, or back?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy being slowly teased and denied full stimulation to build anticipation?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in combining different sensations (warm/cold, soft/firm) in one scene?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of your partner carefully exploring what sensations you respond to most?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy being surprised with new sensations within your agreed boundaries?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about sensory deprivation (earplugs, blindfolds) to focus only on touch?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like gentle teasing of usually off-limits areas while staying within your comfort zone?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in using everyday objects (spoons, brushes, fabrics) creatively on your skin?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy having your breathing and physical reactions closely watched during sensation play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in building a small ritual around sensation play (music, lighting, pacing)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
3. Bondage & Restraints
Do you enjoy the idea of having your hands gently restrained with cuffs or soft ties?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in having your feet gently restrained or held in place?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of being lightly tied to a bed or furniture feel appealing to you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in tying up a partner in simple, safe ways (scarves, cuffs, rope with safety knowledge)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the feeling of being unable to move freely within agreed limits feel exciting to you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in decorative bondage like simple rope patterns for aesthetics and sensation?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does wearing collars, cuffs, or harnesses appeal to you as part of play or identity?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about positions that gently hold your legs apart using straps or spreader bars?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of being immobilized while your partner teases you with touch excite you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy being the one applying restraints and managing your partner’s movement?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the ritual of setting up bondage (tying knots, checking safety) feel appealing to you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about learning more technical rope skills with proper education and safety?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does wearing a collar or symbol of ownership/connection appeal to you in bondage contexts?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in positions that emphasize vulnerability (hands above head, kneeling) with support?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does being restrained while receiving other kinds of play (sensation, impact, etc.) excite you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about gag play (being partially unable to speak) with clear safe signals?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the mental experience of surrendering control of your movement feel arousing or comforting?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does being the one controlling restraints give you a sense of focus, care, or excitement?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in combining bondage with other kink elements like roleplay or power dynamics?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of building deep trust through bondage scenes with communication and aftercare?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
4. Voyeurism & Exhibition
Do you enjoy watching erotic content or others being intimate when everyone has consented?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of being watched by a trusted person while you are intimate appeal to you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of your partner watching you undress or touch yourself?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of watching your partner touch themselves while you observe appeal to you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in being intimate in semi-public but legal, private spaces where you might be lightly observed?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of performing for a camera (with control over who sees it) interest you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy knowing that someone is specifically paying attention to how you move or sound during intimacy?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about watching other consenting adults together in the same room or space?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of being admired visually (body, clothing, movement) turn you on?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the thought of dressing in a way that invites erotic attention from a partner?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in sending suggestive photos or videos to a trusted partner who appreciates them?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy receiving suggestive images or videos from a partner who wants you to see them?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of being the center of attention in an intimate situation excite you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy knowing that a partner is fantasizing about you when you are not there?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in scenarios where you and your partner watch yourselves on video together?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the idea of watching others flirt or tease each other arouse you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy people-watching in a non-creepy way and imagining their romantic or sexual lives?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about controlled group environments where consensual watching and being watched are allowed?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of subtle exhibition, such as suggestive clothing at home or for a partner?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does knowing you might be lightly observed (with consent and safety) heighten your arousal?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
5. Roleplay & Fantasy
Do you enjoy imagining yourself in different roles or characters during intimacy?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in playing authority-based roles (boss, teacher, officer) with clear consent and limits?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy playful power roleplay such as boss/employee or tutor/student with safe boundaries?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in romantic roleplay like strangers meeting for the first time?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like scenarios where you or your partner play a more shy or more confident version of yourselves?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does dressing up in costumes or themed outfits appeal to you during intimate play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in fantasy settings like medieval, sci-fi, or supernatural themes in your roleplay?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of roleplaying a service role (server, maid, butler) for your partner?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy medical or caretaker-themed roleplay with clear safety and consent?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about playful interrogation or questioning scenes where one of you leads the story?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like roleplay where you pretend not to know each other and flirt as if meeting new?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in structured roleplay scenes with a beginning, middle, and end?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy improvising dialogue and staying in character for part of an encounter?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about roleplay that includes accents, different names, or different personalities?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of acting out a fantasy you have seen in a book, show, or movie (adapted safely)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you comfortable with light taboo themes (within legal, consensual limits) being explored in fantasy?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy planning roleplay scenes in advance with props, outfits, or scripts?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in letting your partner design a roleplay scenario for you as a surprise (within limits)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy debriefing after roleplay to talk about what felt good or not?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about regularly using roleplay as a way to keep things exciting over time?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
6. Impact Play
Are you interested in light spanking as part of erotic play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the idea of firmer spanking within your limits and with clear consent?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about using hands versus toys (like paddles) for impact play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of rhythmic, playful impact rather than harsh or painful sensations?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in having specific body areas (like buttocks or thighs) be the focus of impact play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the sound or anticipation of impact as part of arousal?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about trying soft implements like fabric floggers or plush paddles?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of gradually building intensity during impact play with lots of check-ins?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in receiving impact as a way to feel release or catharsis?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of giving impact and watching your partner’s reactions?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about marks or redness as a visual reminder of a scene (within your comfort zone)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy combining impact play with praise, reassurance, or affectionate touch?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in combining impact with other elements like bondage or roleplay?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of structured impact (for example, a set number of gentle swats)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about the endorphin rush that some people experience after impact play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you value detailed negotiations about intensity, areas, and tools before impact play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in learning proper technique for safe impact play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of soothing aftercare (lotion, cuddles, kind words) after impact scenes?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Does the thought of being told to “hold still” during impact play appeal to you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about experimenting very slowly with impact play over multiple sessions?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
7. Fetish Play
Are there specific body parts (feet, hands, legs, chest, etc.) that especially turn you on?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy focusing on clothing items like lingerie, stockings, or tight outfits during play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you attracted to certain materials like leather, latex, silk, or lace?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the idea of high heels, boots, or specific footwear as a turn-on?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in underwear or lingerie being a major focus of attention?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of glasses, makeup, or particular grooming styles as a strong turn-on?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about roleplay focused on a specific body part or accessory (for example, feet or hands)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the smell of certain things (cologne, sweat, leather) in an erotic context?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in hair as a focus (hair pulling, stroking, specific hairstyles)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of specific outfits that signal roles (uniforms, suits, dresses)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about fantasy themes like pet play or owner/pet dynamics within safe, consensual limits?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the idea of fetish gear such as collars, harnesses, or specialized outfits?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in seeing or being seen in fetish-style clothing in private spaces?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of building scenes around your favorite visual or tactile triggers?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about trying mild fetish interests you have not yet explored?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the idea of your partner enthusiastically appreciating a specific feature of yours?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in exploring kink or fetish communities online for education (not necessarily participation)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of gradually disclosing fetish interests to a trusted partner?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about combining fetish elements with roleplay or power dynamics?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you feel excited by the idea of having a “signature” kink or fetish that feels very you?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
8. Emotional / Psychological Play
Do you enjoy intense emotional connection and eye contact during intimate moments?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in vulnerability-based play, like sharing fantasies or fears in a safe setting?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of gentle dominance that emphasizes care and protection?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about praise-focused play, where you receive lots of compliments and affirmations?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the idea of mild humiliation or embarrassment in a strictly playful, consensual way?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in power exchanges that feel nurturing or caretaking in nature?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of being guided or coached through experiences by a trusted partner?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about control over routines (bedtimes, tasks, rituals) as part of kink play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the feeling of being deeply seen and known by a partner during intimate play?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in long, slow build-ups that focus on tension, teasing, and anticipation?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of structured rules or protocols in a relationship or scene?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about affirming name-calling or titles that reinforce your role (pet names, honorifics)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy scenarios where you are comforted or cared for after emotional intensity?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in fantasy scenarios that involve surrender of emotional control in a safe way?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of your partner making thoughtful decisions for you within agreed limits?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about psychological teasing (denial, promises, delayed gratification)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy revisiting intense scenes in conversation afterward to process feelings together?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in exploring how kink can intersect with healing or self-discovery (non-therapeutically)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of rituals that mark the beginning and end of a scene (phrases, gestures, routines)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about long-term dynamics (such as ongoing roles) with clear boundaries and consent?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
9. Control & Structure
Do you enjoy the idea of one partner having more control over how and when intimacy happens?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in consensual rules about communication, check-ins, or reporting back to a partner?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of asking permission before certain activities or pleasures?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about schedules or routines being part of a power dynamic?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy the idea of being told what to wear for a date or an evening at home?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in giving someone else control over certain decisions in a scene or relationship?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the structure of having rituals before or after scenes (greetings, kneeling, cuddles, etc.)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about reward-and-consequence systems that are playful and consensual?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy planning scenes in detail and then following the plan closely?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in spontaneous control, where your partner surprises you with safe instructions?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of “obedience” or “service” as an erotic theme?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about contracts or written agreements outlining your dynamic (non-legally binding)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy keeping track of tasks or goals given by a partner and feeling proud when you complete them?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in digital control elements (check-ins, messages, remote instructions)?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of your time or attention being directed by a partner within your limits?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about being the one who holds structure and control for someone else?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you enjoy mixing strictness and warmth in a power dynamic?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you interested in gradually increasing levels of control as trust builds over time?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Do you like the idea of “off-duty” time where roles and rules are deliberately relaxed?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested
Are you curious about living with an ongoing consensual power exchange as part of your relationship?
1 = Not interested5 = Very interested